7 Powerful Tips for Women Wanting to Thrive in FM & Parenting
Being a woman in Facilities Management is no easy feat. But add parenting into the equation, and it’s like embarking on a high-stakes obstacle course.
The pressure is real, but let me tell you this: you can conquer both — I’m living proof.
I’ve faced many hurdles, but one moment etched in my mind forever was during a 1:1 many years ago, with a manager before my maternity leave. She asked me if I was sure FM was my true calling, suggesting that I’d be better off stacking shelves instead of returning to my role. That hit me hard. I’d dedicated myself to my work, and to be doubted by another woman like this was devastating. But instead of letting that moment break me, I turned it into fuel.
I became more determined than ever to show the world that I could excel in my career and be an incredible mum.
So, why am I qualified to talk about balancing Facilities Management and parenting?
I’m a proud mum to one, and my career journey has been anything but easy. I started in FM as a teenager, working in a Helpdesk role, and over the years, I’ve climbed the ladder, gaining experience and confidence along the way. Today, I hold the position of Head of Business Excellence at IEM, leading initiatives to drive success and improve operations.
Here are my 7 key tips for thriving as a woman in FM and parenting:
1. Be unapologetically clear about your priorities
“Work-life balance” looks different for everyone. For me, it means showing up for my family when it counts and setting boundaries at work to protect that. Be transparent with your team and family about what matters to you. Owning your priorities doesn’t make you less committed—it makes you human.
2. Surround yourself with the right support
An amazing partner can make all the difference. I’m lucky to have someone who understands and supports my career goals while pursuing their own. We try to even out the responsibilities as much as we can (one does school drop off, whilst the other does pick up). Professionally, collaborate with people who share your values and embrace flexibility. It’s crucial—not just for excelling at both parenting and work but for your own sanity!
3. Learn to delegate and trust others
We want to do it all—to show our worth and prove we can handle anything & everything. But you don’t have to. Learn to delegate tasks and trust your team/coworkers to support (they may also want new challenges thrown their way). Empowering others and collaborating isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s smart leadership.
4. Don’t let negativity define your journey
The comment from a past manager could have held me back, but instead, I used it as motivation (after a short cry in the toilet of course.. I blame the pregnancy hormones!) If you encounter people who doubt your ability to balance work and family, let it push you forward, not pull you down.
5. Work smarter, not harder
Technology is your best friend. From FM tools that simplify operations to shared calendars for family schedules, find systems that work for you. Free up your time for what truly matters, whether it’s closing a deal or cheering at your child’s football game.
6. Choose the right company
The culture of your workplace matters. Flexibility, shared values, and mutual respect can make or break your ability to thrive. Surround yourself with people who see your potential and understand that parenting doesn’t hinder your career—it strengthens it… Because surely we are more resilient after years of sleepless nights and changing dirty nappies!
7. Don’t forget self-care
Let’s be real—parenting and FM are demanding. Taking care of yourself is essential. Whether it’s a quiet moment with a coffee, a gym session, reading a book, or even just a good night’s sleep, prioritise your well-being; dedicate an hour a day to yourself. A happy, rested you is better for everyone, after all, you can’t pour from an empty cup.
